Tarec Uncomfortable I have an "interesting" relationship with my neighbor the problem is we have known each other for a while and I have grown really attached and so has she but her feeling I think are different than mine because well she sees me as a brother but I have a crush on her and sometimes I also get mixed feelings from her I know I should sit down and talk with her but I'm afraid that it'll ruin are relationship we have right now so I have no idea what to do and the worst part is are parents are best friends so if somthing went wrong at all the get togethers it would be reeeeaaaalllly wierd. so what should I do I need help baaaaad Otakon Oh boy... that does sound a bit complicated. Trust me, I know all about "interesting" relationships. Otakon Hmm... well... it sounds like you already know what you have to do and you also know the possible outcomes of your actions, if you chose to do them. Talking to her, causing her to become uncomfortable around you, affecting your friendship with her and your parents... that seems to be the absolutely worst thing that could happen. Solid Snake Well, she could flip out, join the Navy Seals, get heavy weapons training, come back home, and decide to shoot him in the face. Otakon Are you trying to help or make things worse? Solid Snake Sorry, I was trying to be funny. Otakon OK, let me clarify... that's the absolute worst _realistic_ thing that could happen. If you know the potential threats and are equipped to handle them, why shouldn't you take the risk? I mean, you are "friends"... and if you've known each other for a while, you should know how she will most likely react. If you think you just need to get it off your chest, it doesn't mean anything in the long run, and you know she doesn't share your feelings but you don't think it'll really weird her out, go ahead and tell her. Maybe she can help with your emotional burden and at least she can try to stop sending you mixed signals or do things that might confuse you. If you have to get it off your chest but you absolutely are certain she doesn't like you in that way... and you also know she will react badly to it, then it means it's solely your problem and it's something you're going to have to endure unless you think you want to drag her into it. Solid Snake I think what Otakon is trying to get at is simple: Do you think she's understanding and caring enough to share your emotional burden, as a friend and as the person you have a crush on? Not to be harsh about it, but this is really your problem if she has no issues dealing with you. The only reasons you'd ever have tell her your feelings are if you either just need to get it off your chest because it hurts or if you think she has feelings for you. In either case, you'll have to decide whether or not you think she can handle it and whether or not you can live with the consequences. Otakon Well, there is one more reason he'd have to tell her how he feels... he wants her to do something about it. It's not just his fight alone... if he has feelings for her, he wants to let her know so she can do something about it too. May it be completely return his love and form a relationship or just stop doing the things that make him crush on her. In any case, you have to weigh whether or not you should choose to give her some of the responsibility for how you feel. Try to take a third-person look at your situation by releasing the R1 button. If you think some of the feelings you have for her are a direct result of things she's doing then yeah, maybe you should tell her just so she can change what she does. Solid Snake Love is a complicated thing. Crushes are worse because it's all the emotion with none of the validation. Sometimes, there are no reasons to how or why you feel what you feel for a person... you just have to live with the facts of how they feel for you and move on. Tarec Thanks I have no idea how this is going to end but I think she'll wig out if I tell her the truth so since I will probobly only see her until we graduate I think I'll just grin and bear it and thanks allot for the advice now I see the big picture and not just me. Otakon Sorry... I know how much it can hurt sometimes and sometimes things change for the better or sometimes they change for the worst. Maybe someday things will work out between you two... but I guess you just gotta keep going, you know?