Pandora the new girl I've been dating a guy for a little more than a year now. His friends weren't the most welcoming of people to my presence. I've made it over the bump of avoiding any flames during conversations. But recently one of those friends ( a very sarcastic one ) has a new girlfriend. She is younger than me younger than him and in Highschool. I've met her once or twice found her to be nice enough. But shortly after they started dating, she was hanging out with us, and made it a point to snipe me verbally at every chance she got. I was so furious, I was getting hot headed and rash. I held my tounge but secretly fumed over it. Later that night we ran into some other girls that were the groups friends not long heard from. They caught on to her game quickly and put up a defence on my behalf. So my question is this. If this happens again and I am totally on my own, what should I do. How can handle the misguided and misplaced attempts of a youngin to be "accepted" by older boyfriend? Pandora Eikichi Onizuka People will do some odd things to feel like they're part of the gang. You could start a fight with her, and slap her down each time she gets lippy, if that's your style. Toss the whole age differance and outsider thing and treat her like a person. I'm not saying try to be her best friend or any of the BS, just be yourself. If she ticks you off get ticked off. If you mess up say you're sorry. If you feel like slapping her...... Well, I dunno if you should go that far. Use your own style. Haibane Reki Well...if she's as immature as you say, but trying as hard as you say to fit in with an older crowd, you may want to step up and take the mature way, yourself. I'm not saying you shouldn't be mad, or never let it get to you. That's being silly, not being mature. What I mean is, you may want to speak to her alone and calmly lay out what's bugging you. Maybe a phonecall, an e-mail. Maybe some time you are out some place and you can catch her in the bathroom. Any way that's away from her boyfriend, because that's just going to make her defensive, and think that you did it just to embarass her in front of him. Haibane Reki When I say "calmly" the trick is to tell her what you want to say, without letting yourself be upset. Isn't easy, but it works better. Most people's ears go shut when someone starts yelling at them. On the other hand, if you can get across how annoying it is for her to keep picking at you, and how much it makes her look like a little kid, maybe she'll get the picture. Who knows...maybe she sees you as a threat? An older girl to get between her and her "MAE-yun." If there's no reason for her to feel that way, maybe she needs to know that...but regardless, putting other people down doesn't make you look any better...just petty.