Mythril Drugs from sept 20 She is not trying to quit, but she says she wants to, she was sober for two months and picked it all back up a few weeks ago. She has asked me for help, but everytime I try to help she acts like I am trying to control every aspect of her life, when in reality all I am doing is asking her why she finds it necessary to be high or buzzed all the time, when she is somewhat sober she wants to quit, but if she gets back into it even a little, it suddenly becomes all consuming. I have made my position on the subject clear, and she still comes over to my house high and drunk, and constantly talks about the new "ways" to get high, to tell you the truth its like I've already lost a friend. Alucard Tepis Sadly, it is quite possible that you have already lost your friend. Addiction can turn people into something they previously were not. But that is not to say that she can never come back. It is just a rather long and uncertain road. That she has said she wants to quit is a good sign, but by no means does it say that she is anywhere near recovery. Trying to help someone escape their addiction is not easy, or even advisable path for anyone, particularly someone who is not yet an adult, to undertake without more serious, professional help being available. Alucard Tepis Does her family know about her problem? Would / Do they even care? If you find yourself answering yes, then no. You are going to have to look elsewhere for help, but if the answers were no, then yes, you face a tough opportunity. If she won't talk to her family about it, then you may have to do it for her. One of the many hard parts is threading the needle between getting the people that love her involved and helping them to understand enough to avoid overreacting. And by "overreacting," parents may react in many different ways: denial, anger, or even dispair (wondering what they could have done to have avoided their child making this sort of mistake). If she wants to quit, she needs support and understanding, not condemnation and punishment on the one hand or recriminations and abandonment on the other. Alucard Tepis It sounds like you care about the girl a lot, so I hope you have the stomach to bear with what will likely be rough times ahead. But I think the two most important things that you can do for her is to help convince her that she should seek professional help, and to support her to encourage her to stay with whatever program she decides is going to be the one to help her quit. If she means a lot to you, you could consider offering to go along with her when she goes to seek help, if anything, to provide a familiar, friendly, and supportive face. Mythril Her father might help, but her mother already hates her. I would not risk telling them that. She is already attempting to get emancipated, from what I have seen of her mother. The only good thing that might come of it is that she might not have to ever speak to her mother again. That is by no means harsh, but I know that she would miss her father.